Assalamu alaikum, Dear brothers, please give us the clarification of our queries. I am a married women with one child. Soon after our marriage my husband left me to his working place (another country). Because his leave was shorter. He joined with me after a year on the 30th day of Ramadan. He started the fasting (1st of Ramadan) from where he works. But our origin country started Ramadan one day later from that country. It means my husband was not in fasting on the day of his arrival (on the 30th day) because he completed the fasting one day early. It was our first rejoin after our marriage. After his arrival both of us couldn't get control ourself and finally we did the intercourse. I was fasting but he was not. So, both of us guilty to Allah? We are shame and afraid to ask to a scholar to get a clarification. Is it a major sin? We will get appologise from Allah? We have to give any compensation? Compensation give both of us? How we repent ot Allah? Dear brother please pray for us to get us Allah's appologise.
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As regards the issue of the arrival of the husband on the 30th day of Ramadan and having intercourse with his wife, then our answer is as follows:
1. The husband in not obliged to fast that day, because he was travelling during the day and thus was not obligate to fast. Therefore, he is not obliged to fast after arrival according to the preponderant opinion of the scholars like Imaam Maalik and others .
2. If a traveller comes back from his travel while he is not fasting and then he has intercourse with his wife, he is not obliged to expiate for that; this view is reported by Imaam Ahmad but he is sinful for invalidating the fasting of his wife, and he is obliged to repent to Allah.
3. If the wife is forced to have intercourse, then she is not obliged to expiate for it. Ibn Qudaamah said: ''If a wife is forced to have intercourse, she is not obliged to expiate for it; there is only one narration in this regard (without any difference of opinion) but she has to make up for this day." However, if she incited her husband, then she is greatly sinful and she is obliged to sincerely repent to Allah fulfilling all the conditions of a sincere repentance. Whoever sincerely repents, Allah will accept his repentance. However, there is a difference of opinion among the scholars whether or not she is obliged to expiate, some of them are of the view that she should expiate for that whereas some others are not of this view but to be on the safe side, a woman should expiate.
For more benefit on the definition of expiation, please refer to Fatwa 84189, and for the conditions of a sincere repentance, please refer to Fatwa 87903.
Allah Knows best.